Is Shadow Work Scary?
Ignore me, and I will haunt you, says the shadow. But is it true?
Yes, anything you avoid in life will come back until you face it. Call it torment or shadow work. For me, facing my shadow wasn't this scary monster because I knew it was only more of me — unhealed, wounded parts of me I discarded. What I found in my shadow was a hurt little girl fighting for her life.
She got bullied, abused, abandoned, and often felt alone.
How my unhealed Shadow showed up as an adult was:
Seeking validation outside of myself
Living in a fantasy
Alcoholism
Choosing unavailable men
Adopting a scarcity mindset
Clinging to limiting beliefs that kept me small (but provided a false sense of safety)
What I didn't know until I peeled back the layers was there was gold there too. All of the cool shit about me I thought would be made fun of by others was there. And anyone who judges you is merely projecting their unhealed shit unto you. Read that again.
Why did I decide to take on my shadow?
Because living the way I was, was not enough. And that's what it takes, right? Deciding to change your life because it simply is not fucking enough.
And my life now?
It's way more freeing than I ever imagined possible because I consistently do the work. Shadow Work is the work and vital, and anyone who tells you differently is spiritually bypassing. Yes, I have bad days – days where I get down on myself for repeating a familiar pattern.
But then I quickly realized what's different is me.
The situation might look the same, but I changed. So I lean in with my tools and kick the pattern's ass. In the end, perfection is bullshit, and I would never strive for that. I only seek to heal my whole heart, take care of myself, mind, body, and soul, and slay generational trauma.
And while I'm at it helps heal a ton of women in the process through my private mentorship.
